Self-defeating thoughts can come when we least expect them and tear down our self-esteem and break our spirits. Stand up to them and choose joy instead with five ways to overcome self-defeating thoughts.

Refinery29 - Domestic violence is an issue that is too often swept under the rug. When it is brought to light, the conversation often centers around physical violence, even though domestic abuse can manifest in many different forms.

"If you were to ask most people to visualize what a [domestic abuse] survivor looks like, they'll start talking about broken bones, black eyes, cuts, and bruises," says Kelly Coyne, vice president of domestic shelters for Safe Horizon. "And while that's definitely a reality of domestic violence, I'd say, more often than not, abusive relationships really start with power and control issues." And sadly, this type of abuse can be hard to spot, and even harder to get people to pay attention to.

While the gifts in “The Twelve Days of Christmas” may be a little strange by today’s standards, you can still celebrate by giving gifts in your community. Check out this unique spin on 12 ways you can show you care this holiday season.